I came across something I wrote back in March of 2018. I wrote it in a style that would be good in a custom greeting or birthday card. But I didn’t ever use it for that. I just wrote it, and saved it on my computer, and forgot about it.
I looked at the date stamp on it this evening, and remembered that I had written it on a day when a friend was supposed to come and visit me. It was their idea, not mine. This person ended up not coming over, which normally wouldn’t have bothered me one bit. I called that day (because they asked me to) to let them know when was a good time since i work from home. When I called, they didn’t answer. A few moments later, I received a text saying they were laying down in bed with a bad headache, and to please pray. So I did. Later on in the afternoon, they called me and sounded great. Real chipper, happy and feeling good. They never apologized for not coming, nor tried to re-schedule. Just nothing. Nothing but a lot of fast talking. It appeared to me that they never intended on coming, and I don’t know why. This was hurtful because I thought this person was a friend. I wasn’t expecting to be lied to and deceived like that. I mean if you can’t make it, just say you can’t make it. Right? Why all the deception and excuses?
I chose to forgive as the Bible commands us, but Jesus really had to help me with this one. It hit me right in the heart. And so that evening, I sat down at the computer and the following is what came out:
What is a true friend?
A true friend never leaves you or forsakes you
Even when you are at your worst.
A true friend never lets you go
Even when you deserve to be let go.
A true friend will not yell at you
Even when they are upset with you.
A true friend will not tell you one thing,
And then do another.
A true friend can be summed up in the following Scripture:
Love is patient
Love is kind
Love does not envy
Love does not boast
Love is not prideful
Love does not dishonor
Love is not rude
Love is not self-seeking
Love is not easily angered
Love keeps no record of wrongs
Love does not delight in evil
Love rejoices with the truth
Love always protects
Love always hopes
Love always perseveres
Love never fails
Love never stops loving.
(Reference: 1 Cor. 13:4-8 NIV & TPT)
I have a friend just like this.
His name is Jesus.
He really is the friend that sticks closer than a brother.
He is always there when I need Him no matter the hour.
He is always there when I want Him. And He is even there when I don’t.
He is never too busy for me…..ever!
He loves me with all that He is and all that He has!
I am by no means perfect in any way. I have many flaws and shortcomings. I’ve let people down, and people have let me down. Even though we as humans fall short, we have One in Heaven who never falls short. His Name is Jesus! He never leaves us or forsakes us….ever! He is always there to help us when we call on Him. He IS my very BEST FRIEND! He loves me when all is well, and when all is chaos. When I’m in a good mood or a bad one. When I’m angry, sad, hurt, happy….He’s always right there to help me….every time.
If you are struggling with a friendship, or any kind of relationship, just go to Jesus with it. He will hear you, and He will help you with it because He loves you. And He will heal your heart, too, and show you how to love people just as He loves people. How do I know? Because my heart isn’t hurt anymore, and I still love this person, and we are still friends.